You're an Army Wife, act like it!

Ok, so tonights blog may be a bit more of a rant than a Day In The Life Of An Army Wife blog, but here it goes!

Do not get me wrong when I say what I'm about to say. I am not a "Femi-Nazi" by any means, and I do not, in general have any real negative feelings toward men.

Women of the past have fought, bled and died for the rest of us to be where we are today. For centuries we have been treated as the much lesser counter-part to the man.
We've been told that our lack of appendage makes us weak and illogical.
(This can only be true if we accept that man carries his strength and intelligence in his pants.)

Its a stereotype all women have had to deal with at some point in our lives.
Overcoming this stereotype and thought of women is frustrating to say the least.
So, when you think about all the women who have been tortured, beaten and even murdered so we can be seen as close to equal with a man as we are, its more than frustrating- I would say infuriating when I hear a female complain about her lot in life.

We are Army Wives. I understand that we miss our husbands and we get lonely. However, anybody who marries into the military and does not expect this type of thing is in for a rude awakening.
Sitting around, crying and acting like its the end of the world just because your SOLDIER husband has to do his job, is not only ridiculous but sets feminism back 40 years. The only thing these wives are proving, is maybe they were right about us all along.

Don't get me wrong, I know how scary this life can be. But I also know, posting "I can't take it anymore" rants online, telling your husband things like "Its me or the Army" and crying everytime he calls is pathetic.
We don't attempt to bring our husbands home everytime there's the smallest of issues. We suck it up and we deal with it.

Some/Most Army wives have at some point had to go through major traumatic events without our spouses. We have babies, we bury loved ones, we have extended hospital stays, we deal with fires, floods and daily insanity. We DO NOT lay down and die.

Anybody who knows me, knows this is a very hot button topic for me. Some people reading this will make rude comments and say stupid things like "she just doesn't know" so lets go over quickly what I don't know....

My 1st ever deployment, I dealt with....
Being 8 months pregnant when he left
Having a baby a month later
Having that baby (3wks old) hospitalized for 3 days in the Intensive Care unit.
Having 6 (yes 6) surgeries at once. With a week in the hospital.
From my hospital bed I ran the troop FRG and managed to pump breastmilk to feed the baby.
I dealt with other wives suicide attempts, deaths and overdoses.

2nd Deployment....
Had a 2 yr old, and a newborn when he left.
Newborn hospitalized for penicillin allergy.
Collapsed roof, tornado that blew out all windows, and various landlord related issues.
3 break-ins at surrounding houses, one known intruder Registered Sex Offender
This is the lesser of the crimes in my neighborhood.

3rd Deployment (at only 5 months out)...
Have 3 children ages 2,4 and 6.
House FLOODS, ruins most of living room
After....tornado ruined back yard.
Psychotic racoon living in attic space
Father in-law in hospice care from stroke
Mother in-law diabetic with severe foot infection (could require amputation if continues)
Bio-father, as per Dr. less than a year to live. Just had major surgery as well.
Bio-mother, now on disability do to physical ailments
Step-father, having massive heart conditions
and....
Youngest child has to meet with pediatric orthopedic surgeon.
and I will do this alone. Why? because I have to.
I WILL NOT bring my husband home, I will not even attempt to do so. He has a job to do. It might suck, but he will do it. Simply because I will do mine!

We are not just wives, we are ARMY wives